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Greetings,
I hope you had a Thanksgiving filled with joy and
appreciation! For some helpful tips on balancing work
and family, check out my most recent interview on
View from the Bay on CBS. I'll be
featured on
another
episode of this show on 12/4 to talk about staying
balanced this holiday season (3-4 pm, KGO-TV, San
Francisco). First tip - watch or TiVo the show! Smile.
Also, check out upcoming Moms Thrive Now Workshops
scheduled in San Francisco on 1/9/08
and Walnut Creek on 1/15/08
and the
Moms in Balance 90-Day Group
Coaching Program to
begin in Feb., 2008. Hope to see you there!
This ezine's featured article offers personal insight
into what I've recently learned about the benefits of
slowing down. Working mother or not, you can apply
these experiences to your own life to help achieve your
own personal balance.
To your health, happiness and success,
Amber
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For the majority of my life, learning how to slow down
has been very much a work-in-progress. Several
years ago, I was completely unfamiliar with the
concept, however, due to various life circumstances,
I've had regular opportunities to re-examine my pace
in life and to make choices as to what would work best
moving forward.
This last year or so, I chose to exercise really hard,
to work even harder, and to fill my weekends with
social engagements. Then, three months ago, I found
out I was pregnant and everything started to change -
again.
As a goal-oriented woman who prides herself in
knowing what she wants and making it happen, I felt
extremely grateful to be pregnant - especially since
this is not a guarantee in life. I was very excited for
about a week - I called immediate family to share
the news and was unable to contain myself when I
saw friends in person. I thought I had it all figured out.
Think again.
I quickly started to experience severe pain that left me
on the couch for two weeks. I was diagnosed with
three different pregnancy-related conditions that not
only caused pain but left me completely exhausted -
much more than the normal first-trimester fatigue (not
to mention the all-day bouts of nausea).
I realized that my body was providing me with my next
opportunity to learn how to slow down and I had to
make some choices - quickly. I decided to greatly
minimize my work commitments and to give up my
intense hour-long daily exercise routine (it was just too
painful). I also scaled down my social calendar,
selecting fewer and more easy-going activities.
To say that all of this has been a challenge and a
learning experience would be an understatement.
Here are a few lessons I've learned, in hope that
you can apply whatever you find helpful to your own
life.
Sometimes a packed schedule can give you the
feeling that you're accomplishing a lot, really
successful and in high-demand. While all this action
and busyness may make you feel important, it's still
possible to feel successful without killing yourself. It's
less about quantity and more about quality; less about
ego and more about substance. Also, if you don't
learn how to slow down on your own, your body may
take matters into its own hands. Last, slowing down
is a body/mind/soul/heart experience. You can't just
say you're going to slow down and make it happen. All
of you has to be on board (or forced to be on board) or
it won't work.
7 Benefits of Slowing Down:
1) You experience the present more fully and
are able to be here now without worrying
about what's next.
2) The days and weeks feel longer and you gain a
truer understanding of the value of time.
3) You're better able to notice the people, the
moments or the situations that give you the most
energy and fulfillment and to prioritize these moving
forward. When you choose to spend time with people,
you're better able to connect with them and on a
deeper level.
4) You're able to get back in touch with your
creative, strategic side that allows you to think big and
create a vision.
5) You remember what you're grateful for because you
have time to think about it.
As you think about how slowing down may serve you,
ask yourself a few questions. What's the easiest thing
you can do this week to slow down? What's the
benefit? What's the cost? What are you learning about
yourself? What will you do differently moving
forward?
You may find that learning how to slow down is a
wonderful gift you can give yourself, your loved ones,
and your career. Or you may discover that you're at a
point in your life where slowing down simply doesn't
serve you. The important thing is to do some honest,
careful thinking about what works best for you right
now and to know that you always have a choice
moving forward. You're worth it.
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Amber Rosenberg is a professional life coach who
helps high-achieving
working mothers manage their guilt and stress
and re-define success on their own terms. After 12
years struggling to create her own
work/life balance in the corporate and non-profit
worlds, she is
passionate about helping women actively choose how
they
want to spend their time. A popular speaker and
frequently
interviewed for national print, TV and radio media
outlets,
Amber co-authored the book Inspiration to
Realization
with a chapter on "How to Manage Your Love/Hate
Relationship with Time". To sign-up for a
complimentary coaching consultation, order a signed
copy of her book or sign-up for the Working Mothers'
FREE monthly e-zine, go to
www.workingmotherscoach.com
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Success
Stories:
"Before working with Amber, I felt like I
was
constantly playing catch-up at home and at
work. I was
stressed out and exhausted and felt like I
didn't have
enough of myself to give. Through coaching, I've
learned how to re-define my roles of mother,
manager
and wife and am enjoying what it feels like
to be
successful again."
- Jessica Montel, director of marketing,
mother of
three
"Amber's coaching has helped me to feel more
in control of my time. I learned to focus on
the things I
absolutely have to do and how to say "no" or
delegate
for everything else. I'm getting more done in
less time
and am able to spend more quality time with my
family."
- Layla Adams, sales executive,
mother of one

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